For Children: Going to Therapy for the first time? Here’s what to expect.

Children are our best teachers. They already know how to grow, how to develop ... All they need is the space to do it
— Violet Oaklander

Maybe your parents have decided that a child therapy would be good for you.  Or perhaps you have made this decision yourself. Maybe you are a little scared and have a twinge in your stomach because you don't quite know what to expect. Perhaps you have already been to a child psychotherapist and know what happens during the therapy, but you don't know me.

That's why I'd like to tell you a little about what child psychotherapy, who I am and what my therapy room looks like.

Here, you can play whatever you like, with all the toys.

One day you may be tired or you don't feel like playing, then you don't have to. You can just lie down, or look at a book with me. You decide what you want to do. Together we can try to find a way to make you feel better soon.

I would like to get to know you a little better. That's why I'll have a lot of questions at the beginning. Maybe you'll want to answer them by yourself, or maybe you'd prefer mum and dad to answer them.

For example, I might ask you how you are, if you are worried about anything, if you like your kindergarten or school or if you have a lot of friends. I'll ask you what you're good at or what hobbies you have. You'll only have to tell me the things that you want to tell.

You might get bored with so many questions, then you can look around the room and just play or draw something.

Maybe you'll have some question for me. You’re allowed to ask them all and I will try to answer them.

And the next time you'll come to me, we can get to know each other even better. Your parents might not even come into the room with you but will wait outside, if that's ok for you.

You and I can then play together, draw, talk or play hide and seek. We can do all sorts of things together.

Once we've played together a few times, we can maybe think together about what wishes and worries you might have and how I can help you to make the worries go away. You will come to me once a week for a little while and from time to time I’ll also meet with your parents, who will support you so that you'll feel better soon.

If you want to know a little more about me and what I do and you don't want to wait until we meet in person, you can also write to me beforehand.